Hi Lucy. Some great points. I work in the area of overparenting and write on the topic of the impact of extreme good intentions on children's wellbeing in the home and in schools. Like you, my ideas are sometimes misunderstood and nuance is really hard. There are often two reactions of concern - either people who heartily agree and extend your argument to something you did not say, or people who respond with straw-man types of backlash (particularly from the vaguely qualified or easily angered) and then you risk cancellation for something you did not say.

Of course there is the sensible middle there too - and I take great comfort from those people who recognise the nuance. There are a lot of those people.

The trouble is that there are a lot of vaguely qualified people willing to talk to media who hype up the population with extreme fears about the mental health crisis, as if it is something children can easily catch if they don't discuss their child's feelings 24/7. So if we don't discuss the topic in a nuanced way - who else is going to be invited on the show? But like you - I often say no. So I don't really know the answer.